“MISS” UNDERSTANDING….?

Jacob and Daisy fell in love and got married. They understood each other for two years and fell in love after marriage to the extent that the others were jealous on them. A beautiful baby girl was born to witness their love. Daisy went to work and started earning as Jacob wished, thinking that she should add wealth for the baby. Their mission, which began as a child, then ended in luxury. The two competed and spent more than they earned. Many items were borrowed and stockpiled. Suddenly one day the office where Jacob worked was bankrupted at a huge loss. Jacob lost his job. Some of the months passed. Jacob was looking for work in many places and was not available. The mind did not desire to join a job below the status quo.
 
As the days went by, the intimacy between both Jacob and Daisy diminished little by little and the cracks widened. Everything happened in front of their beloved child as the daily screaming, arguing and quarrel. It greatly affected the child's mind. For which child they wanted to earn first, they were both not interested to care of that child. Eventually the child was placed in a school hostel in another town. As the misunderstanding intensified day by day, the couple approached the court seeking a divorce. They had shown a wrong lesson to the child who grew up watching them.
 
There are three types of understanding.
The first type of understanding is to understand others from our position according to our feelings or our opinion or perception. Many of these will go wrong in this approach, either “misunderstanding” or “missing of understanding”
 
The second type of understanding is to understand others from the position of the others, according to their feelings or opinion or perception.
 
Third is “HALO EFFECT” which is known to all,
that is, understanding a person on the basis of a single character or on the basis of an event that happens by chance. This is a very, very wrong approach.
 
Too often, misunderstandings are triggered by long-term doubts and inferiority complex, Escapism.
 
Ego, Superiority Complex, Looking for better thought, and third party’s Gossips, Ignition or Inducing are the factors behind “missing of understanding”.
 
Thus many couples separate and seek a separate life or another life. The offspring who grow up watching them are just like them. It is a hereditary disease! There is a proverb in English, "Worship the difference".  

Even if you can't celebrate differences, 
at least tolerate differences for your generation.

Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.  “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the Lord Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.”  (Malachi 2: 13-16)

This applies to both men and women.          
 
Marriage is an Institution,
       Where
            Independence is Equal,
            Dependence is Mutual
                         &
            Commitment is Reciprocal. 

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